Ask Deb
Blog URL http://askdeb.wordpress.com/
Located Orangeville, Ontario Canada
Tags advice, lilfe, conflict, question, answer, communication, success, support
Need advice? Ask Deb. Are you struggling with a work or life dilemma? Struggling to come up with the right words in a conflict situation? Dealing with conflict? Struggling with fear or self-doubt. Wondering about success secrets? Ask Deb.
Latest Blog Posts
- Janet asks: “Why can’t I ever get a break?” on Aug 22, 2009 in Obstacles to Success Positive Thinking Success focus hopeless life meaning obstacles questions stuck
Simply? Because we get what we focus on. Janet, change your focus and you will change the way you feel. Change the way you feel and you will change your life. Why? Because what we focus on expands. Try this question exercise, and for th...
- Carolyn asks: “I feel trapped by a good paying job that doesn’t feed my soul. Any advice?” on Jul 31, 2009 in Life Purpose Living Fully Success Workplace Dilemmas conscious living life meaning stuck work
Carolyn so many people can relate to your experience – in fact, I’ve been there myself! What you understand is that payment for the work we do comes in two forms: psychic rewards and physical rewards. Psychic rewards come in the form...
- Bev asks: “But what if the person I need to assert myself with is the boss?!” on Jun 20, 2009 in Communication Conflict Management Workplace Dilemmas assertive communication bosses workplace conflict
Often people think the rules are different for communicating with the boss. The only difference is that the stakes are higher. That means you must choose your words carefully. But the truth is Bev, it is important to choose words with care with...
- Carol asks: “How do I assert myself in the moment when someone has done something really offensive?” on Jun 14, 2009 in Communication Conflict Management Workplace Dilemmas assertive communication coworkers life workplace conflict
Love this question Carol! So many of my workshop participants struggle with this same problem. Often ,when someone’s behaviour offends us personally, we lose our composure, and sometimes our emotional control. In those moments it’s...
- Jan asks “How can I say NO without feeling guilty?” on Jun 12, 2009 in Communication Workplace Dilemmas assertive communication guilt life
Jan, let’s examine your guilt. Have you done something inappropriate, offensive, illegal or immoral? No. So what is your guilt about? Saying ”no” to someone else’s priorities so that you can say “yes”...
- Ron asks: “How do I interrupt a windbag?” on Jun 7, 2009 in Communication Workplace Dilemmas coworkers workplace conflict
Well this certainly is a universal problem isn’t it Ron! OK, so I’m picturing a conversation where you are listening politely to someone who is going on and on and on. All because you made the mistake of asking them how they were. ...
- Teri asks: “If thoughts create my reality, why doesn’t the wealth and success I think about show up?” on May 19, 2009 in Positive Thinking life Success
Great great question Teri! You’ve clearly been following the positive thinking movement and have made the connection between thoughts and your experiences in the physical world. In fact you’ll often hear me say: “What you think...
